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Reflections on My Adoption Journey



At the time of the writing of this article, my wife and I have just brought home our second son. This article is designed as a reflection on the journey to bring our son home, looking at the hardships, the joys, and the way that God walked us through the journey. It is my hope that those who have not gone through an adoption process will have a greater understanding of what is involved and might find ways to stand beside those who are in the process.

First, a few of the details. Both of our sons are adopted from South Korea. The oldest came home when he was 14 months (he is now five years old); the youngest was 28 months. Overall, the process for the second adoption took over two years from the submission of our paperwork to the bringing home of our son. Our referral (whereby we were matched with our son) was received in April of 2012 when he was six months old. The process to bring him home involved two trips to Seoul, Korea and two total weeks in country.

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Two Ears, One Mouth; Regaining the Art of Listening


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Determining how to conduct ministry with children can at times be overwhelming.  Should I use this curriculum or that one?  What will be enjoyable to kids and make them want to come back?  What ministries will make parents happy?  If you have been in ministry for even a short time I suspect that you have asked these and similar questions.  Let me assure you that these are legitimate questions.  Perhaps the best place to start it determining answers is with a practical model that might help us.

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